Being Honest During an Interview
Q – Mr Morgan – For reasons I can’t go into, when interviewing new people, I find myself hiding company truths, but then feel bad about it afterwards. Because of my own job, I feel like I have to do this. Is it OK?
Every job has it’s ups and downs. Be VERY HONEST . During the first Interview, openly tell your potential employee the worst of the job, the downsides of the company, and the negatives of the goals ahead. Hiding the truth creates distrust – – – Honesty sets a foundation for TRUST, RESPECT & LOYALTY!
While interviewing prospective candidates for a future post, one or two negatives can be put to them. Yet (for obvious reasons) rarely can the core downsides of the job and the company be conveyed. Though if and when the interviewer (i.e you) isn’t entirely honest with the other (i.e the interviewee), that level of dishonesty will be picked up and registered – As you already know, dishonesty installs mistrust, whereas honesty raises admiration.
Truth can be conveyed in two ways, direct and in-direct, and while there are times it’s better to just come out and say things the way they are, other occasions call for fashioning things in a round about manner. Choose the best way for all, one that suits you, the other person, and the situation at hand.
Apply direct honesty, or diplomacy – both have there place.
Be honest about the role and if the job is mundane, then tell them – What’s considered mundane for one, can be perfectly acceptable for another. 16 hours may be a walk in the park for one, yet a stretch too far for another.
Honesty draws out the truth. If the work is long or short, sitting, standing, unsociable, harsh, tiring, repetitive, unfriendly, or difficult. Be honest and tell them, or find a way to convey with diplomacy. Yet make certain it’s outlined.
Negatives may hit hard, yet they are almost always overcome. It’s human nature to face and conquer, allow people space to grow. Negatives are reality, they are part of everyday life. You know this. We all do!
Yet rarely do we notice that from pain and suffering, the outcome is generally growth and development. In other words, it’s positive. Therefore consider a key towards moving forward is not to remove and hide the dark stuff, a pivotal axiom is to welcome and embrace. As by conveying truthful negatives, followed by truthful positives, balanced outcomes ensue.
As humans, we love and respond well to honesty. Desire being humans number one attractor. Consider this now as you search your mind for a situation where someone did not have to be, yet they were 100% honest with you. In your mind’s eye, recall an instance where the other person was directly, or indirectly honest and ask yourself how you felt about that?
Shocked, surprised, taken aback are words often used. Yet once the mind subsides and the situation digests, gratitude is a word most people often come forth with – They felt gratitude and appreciative that the other had the “drive, decency and fearlessness” to be honest.
If you lie to your employee’s (unintentional or otherwise) do you think they won’t know? Do you think they will walk away feeling, respect and admiration? Do you think they will leave inspired and motivated?
Turn it around and ask yourself – How would you feel?
Yet when we are honest, even if that truth is hard for one to speak and difficult for the other to hear. When you are truthful, no matter what the other person thinks from there on, they will always feel a sense of admiration, a sense of gratitude and appreciation that while you never had to speak the truth, you did. And deep inside, respect and admiration will grow. Where there is honesty there is truth, and where there is truth, there is admiration.
Admiration leads to respect and respect fuels motivation.
Finally, if you find you’re surrounded by a lot of dishonest people, then view this from the angle of opportunity. Reflect deeper into your own life. Dishonesty on the outside, is often one’s own inner reflecting outwardly. What is your inner wise-one conveying to you?
Even in the business of corporations honesty is the best policy, and the companies that have acted in accordance with the highest standard, other things being equal, have reaped the richest harvest – Robert Green Ingersoll